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A pattern of social change

It is a sad fate for a woman to end up getting married a man who is a gambler, an alcoholic or simply does not work at all. The parents are duped into believing that their son-in-law to be actually works somewhere.  The women who have suffered this and borne children, ensure that their children do not suffer in the same way.   But there is no easy way out of the tradition of arranged marriage. The only recourse is make extensive background checks of the people who come with proposals. It is a very arduous task but absolutely necessary.
With extensive background checks raises - makes easy arranged marriages impossible. The mothers are very careful, particularly when it comes to their daughters.  They do not want to go through hellish experience as they have. his is a growing pattern. Women who have divorced their useless husbands are making sure that their daughters do not end with similar husbands. This is happening because society has reached a level of prosperity allowing them to scrutinise people. When investigation becomes so extensive leads to tremendous distrust on both sides.  Arranged marriages become increasingly difficult.
Some mothers go so far to ensure that their daughters do not have to be dependant or at the mercy of their husbands. Educate them and have some work experience.  This is happening because too many women have suffered as a result of their parents making the wrong decisions. Parents of that time were interested in educating their daughters and they themselves were uneducated. They considered them to be an unnecessary responsibility and choose to hand them over to the first proposal which came their way without checking anything at all.
All that is changing quickly. The first generation of educated women are making sure that their daughters should more independent and will expect them to find someone for themselves. Arranged marriages will be abandoned completely in the next twenty years. It will be considered barbaric and savage. Eventually those who not moving with this tide of social change would be left behind.

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