Boredom killer

The cellphone has become an integral part of Pakistani life, it is hard to imagine life without it anymore.  Every single person is using them, particularly people by those who have a great deal of free time and lots of people to talk to. Gossip gets around fairly fast. I was in a bus, there was this lady who had this phone stuck to her ear and she was asking virtually about everyone in her family and group of friends and telling them all kinds of stories. No sooner she was diconnected because she used up the credit, she added credit resumed her gossiping.
All kinds of people, many who are doing fairly menial jobs are busy receiving and making calls. People love staying connected with anyone they know. There are others who have few friends and want to talk, I received one and that unknown person simply wanted to hear me talk about anything. He even went so far as to ask me to lie to him,  because there was really nothing to talk about. He simply wanted to hear a voice. Lonely people with no friends at all who envy those who have them.
The most common use of course is for lovers to connect.  All in all it is just a means to kill boredom. Smartphones may have added games which keep preoccupied,  but to actually spend time talking with people is perhaps the most fun of all. People talk for hours on end. It has become so common that no one really pays attention to it any more. 
A bored rickshaw-walah or taxi-walah waiting for a passenger bides his time on his cell phone. People call up their families in other towns and cities. This form of connection enables people to remain touch with their families in an instant instead of waiting for letters or be at the mercy of the telephone company.
One of the biggest advantage of cell phones is the instant decision businessmen can make. Buying and and selling on the spur of the moment. There is no need to travel anywhere to deliver a message. The faster decisions via the cellphone enables quicker transactions.
Many marriages have taken place in recent years, because of the connection, cell phones provide. It is no longer dating, just chat on the phone. This has become a trend. When such couples become parents, they are aware that their children will do the same. Society in general is becoming more mature, tolerant to some extent very permissive.

Being old and not knowing it

I feel exactly the same as I used as I did when I was a kid. But it struck me that I was older. I was 20 when teaching and all the kids there started calling me 'Sir'.  That really surprised me. That was the title I used to give everyone who was older than I was. I got over the shock, went to the university completed my studies.Being in my 20s was not safe - cops always stopped all the motorcycle riders who were my age, check licence and registration. But it was easier so many other things. Make friends, talk to almost anyone.
When I turned 50 things changed drastically - I looked older to everyone else. People called me  with the titles given to people who are old. It was hard to talk to people because of the age difference. Many of my relatives, friends and colleagues had died.
There is tremendous respect for older people I must admit, but I have never felt any different.  For instance I was standing in a place there were number of chairs all occupied by younger people. I could have kept on standing, it was not that I was going to collapse, suddenly the chairs were empty all those people got up and insisted that I take their seat. I was not sure immediately why they were doing that, Then I realised it had to do with my aged appearance. I thanked them and sat down.
Some years back I had a cataract operation there was this much older guy, the male nurse addressed him out of respect Babaji. That guy was infuriated about being called that. Unlike most older people he was wearing a pair of jeans and tee shirt. Probably he was not  accustomed being called like that. I have gotten over the initial shock but if long enough and become as old as that guy was my response would be the same only the future can tell.

Outcast

The way people made and established themselves is absolutely disgusting. In any case they are rich, accumulated sufficient wealth over the years. Their wealth however has made them feel they are superior to my family and me.  They have a whole bunch of cars and they arrogant beyond belief and very shallow they cannot make an intelligent comment about anything. The dodge subjects.
I know mental illness runs in the maternal side of the family but today was the absolute fucking limit. A month or so back I went to see my surviving maternal aunt, she had some figs, she showed them to me, instead of offering them. She shut them off somewhere and very emphatically said she was not going to give them to anyone. A month later another, simply calling on her she hands over the figs and was being very generous.  When I opened the packet, there were worms and insects crawling all over them.
It was fair enough to conclude that even she is not immune to the mean and disgusting which my entire family has adopted towards me. Just because I am not as well off as her as everyone else and they are, they feel it is obligatory to look down on me and give me garbage.
These are the kind of people with whom I should never have any contact whatsoever. They do not deserve it.

Pakistani English

Whichever country the British ruled and left, English was left behind. After the British left America in 1776, that was the starting point of American English. Because the USA was no longer connected to Britain. American English has been undergoing changes because of mass migration from Europe. The people needed to communicate with each other and the only common language was English. In that process American English changed with new words and phrases.  After 1947 Pakistani English started, it no longer was associated with the British English.

Pakistani English was adopted by everyone who spoke different languages in different regions. Languages survive when they adapt to new circumstances, they adopt new words. 

To expect Pakistani's to speak Kings or Queens English is absurd - because no one will understand it. Pakistani English is a language with its own traditions. Pronunciation may be completely strange,  usage, grammar and syntax twisted and turned around, but they make perfect sense to the people who know it and are talking amongst themselves.

The trend to police a language and try to correct results in resentment because that retards its development. It has been 65 years. People who return from the USA pronounce schedule  as Sked-jule in Pakistani English it is called  shedool. 

The weather in Pakistan is very different. There is hardly any season like Fall  its  alternative Autumn, yet some people say it as if they have never lived in Pakistan.

A language which is imported does not work. It exists only for academic purposes, not more. It is not a part of Pakistani English. Tradesmen use Pakistani English to communicate with each other. Thus making it a completely separate and unique language.

Cell phone service blocking idiocy

Rehman Malik's idea blocking  cell phone services is going to ensure is madness.  In times of crisis all lines of communications shoul remain open. It is essential that everyone should be contact with everyone. If terrorists are using cell phones to remain in contact with one another, the police can trace calls, listen to what the terrorists are doing and planning and what they have done. This helps the police in catching them before they can.do any damage.
In any case of crisis all lines of communication should remain open. People who need medical assistance can call them. If criminals are seen the police can be informed, so that they should be arrested. Even phones are as IEDs that number can traced if there are scanners around.
Rehman Malik is nothing but a bloody absolutely corrupt piece of shit

Shia control over the Pakistani media

The Shia community has shown it has tremendous control over the Pakistani media. Any occasion which pertains to Shias is given tremendous coverage. It is as if Sunnis and other Muslim sects do not exist or matter at all. In countries where Shias do not exist,,  the first of Muharram is celebrated because it is the beginning of the Islamic new year and it is celebrated.
But in places where Shias are living celebrating the Islamic new year  is something which they cannot tolerate. Shias resort to self flagellation - a practice carried out Christian Catholics. The Christian Catholics did it to symbolise the way Christ suffered before being led to the cross.
The Shias have copied this  ritual but added another element, on the whips they have attached blades to the  so that they bleed even more. They even stab their heads making them bleed too
They are so extreme that during Muharram if any of their loved ones dies - mourning is reserved only for Hussain and Hasan and no one else.
During Muharram all entertainment  in Pakistan is strictly prohibited, so that the Shias should not be offended. If the Shias were truly Muslims only Muhammed would be accepted as the prophet.  But the Shias claim it was Ali who should have been the prophet and Muhammad usurped it right from Ali. The Sunni majority should not allow a minority sect dictate terms to them. The Shias should stay within their own confines and not try take over anything.
No entertainment on tv channels during Muharram, from the first of Muharram particularly to Ashura full ten days of boredom.
A few years back Muharram fell at the same time as New Year's eve. There was lot of rejoicing, dancing and singing. Truck loads of Shias came out in truck there and started cursing the people who were having fun.
Fortunately there was no backlash from the merry making crowd. The Shias can never ever be happy - their faith is of extreme masochism. Come Ashura all the black clad fucking assholes will be narrating the same story of the 'martyrdom at Karbala' People are required to cry. What if this garbage taken off the air of all tv channels, what is the worst will the Shias can do? Why should the members of other Muslims  and non-Muslims  suffer watching this crap?  It seems Shias have infiltrated ever institution of the state and placed them in a very dangerous position. The Shia are in the media, some as anchor  persons.  It is time Shia  started being ignored in Pakistan
The Shia rituals like their processions and the blocking of entire roads should be taxed. If the Shias require extra security,  they should pay for it. In any case blocking of  public roads is illegal because people pay motor vehicle tax for accessing public road. No one has the right to block public roads, those who do, are criminals.

Psychopaths

Obviously is a term used in different variations by psychopaths. Supposing they are told about some person is ill. The word is used to end an ongoing conversation, because psychopaths are averse to sharing. They do not know to add an emotion to what is being said. What would be shocking and dismaying for a normal person, it is not for a psychopath. Such people talk about something - it is a conversation starter which can lead up to talking about other things.
Psychopaths do not respond to anything with any emotion. If they are told that someone has a sling on his arm - they do not react with surprise or concern. Those emotions are just not in them - they do not know what surprise and concern means. They only thing they say 'obviously he will get if does that". They are incapable of expressing surprise, shock, dismay or joy, they are turn into a bland and colourless obviously.
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They are deliberately negligent and take no responsibility for their actions. They create situations in which serious accidents take place and blame the person who had the accident for being careless. When in fact  it was entirely their fault. They prefer a risky situation. They rather gamble everything they have for a few minutes of thrill. When they lost everything they blame everyone but themselves for what  has happened.They cannot understand the pain of someone else, if they are told their reaction is 'ignore it', 'things will get better' they do not offer help, they do not attempt resolve a problem because they do not know how to. Only if there is some kind personal gain to help someone who is suffering, they would be the first to volunteer. They will help not because they are doing out of kindness, they do not know what kindness means.

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Psychopaths have a parasitical lifestyle. They will never got married because it is too much of an obligation on them. They rather be alone and feed off those who provide them with a place to stay. They do not want to do anything. The only time they will get married is when they can exploit the person to whom they are married.
They cannot have any relationship with anyone - because they are only interested in having a good time. But as soon it becomes boring they leave - they are always in a quest to find something new and exciting - so old relationships have to be dropped and new ones made. However such person's reputation precedes them - they end up being lonely.

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Gluttony is a form or psychopathic behaviour. The glutton does not care if anyone else wants to eat or drink. They literally steal food. They are unable understand that others have needs.  Unless they are disciplined like animals - they will not stop. Parents who allow this are psychopaths too.

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Social networking exposes psychopaths. They are unable to share any ideas - because they have none. They say nothing at all because they are inherently anti-social. They do not want to post anything and are completely paranoid.

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Psychopaths can be well described as that of a hamster, keep on running. Endlessly busy. They cannot be inactive for a moment for some reason they imagine they would die,  if they did.  If they have some person whom they can control, they will make that person feel dangerously guilty of being inactive.  Since they cannot live being endlessly and meaninglessly active they want others to do exactly the same.  They fake their surprise when someone chooses to settle down perhaps spend some time thinking.  For psychopaths thinking and day dreaming are one and the same thing. They only think at the spur of the moment not before or after.
They always wake up early, no matter how late they slept at night. Usually sleep  early. They can never explain why they get up so early. They pretend it is a virtue and condemn anyone else who takes time getting up. They cannot rest and cannot tolerate anyone else wanting to do so. 

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When they are criticising a play or film - that criticism is always about the emotions being shown and expressed. As they have none of their own, unable feel anything, they do not understand what others feel.  Of course the actors are showing emotions which are not true - but for that brief moment when the show is going on - it is touching for a normal people - temporarily suspend disbelief. That is impossible for psychopaths. People with real emotions feel rage against the villain and feel triumphant when the hero wins. Psychopaths cannot feel neither.  Romantic stories have deep emotions in them - something psychopaths can never understand. As such they have no permanent likes or dislikes. No hobbies nothing which would keep them interested. Showing interest would mean interaction with people, which they avoid.

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Their absence of emotions makes it impossible to have any attachment with children. Children ask questions, play and laugh none of this registers in the mind of a psychopath. The psychopath would rather distance himself from the child. Any affection expressed is fake. As always the only emotion rage and impatience with the child.  A child has emotional needs  and they prove too stressful the psychopath parent.  Resorts to extremely violent behaviour. A child craves love, senses its absence subconsciously and will run to someone who has genuine emotions, someone who laughs and cries with him. When the parents are psychopaths, their loving words are empty, the laugh lacks depth, it is more lie a machine resonating laughter but unable to relate to something funny.

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Some form of emotion exists, it is rage, it is easier than all the others. But they never understand its implications. They are perpetually angry. But when something which should really make them angry, they do not know how to react.

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When they are talking with someone who is equal or better off them - they feign being a target of unimaginable abuse by anyone. If they are parents they will blame their children for all their problems. When they children they will blame their parents. They will claim to be poverty stricken and miserable.
However when they encounter those who are less fortunate than themselves - they ceaselessly boast about their achievements and how wonderful they are. Their friendship with people is to exploit them nothing else. They cease talking and meeting when they have gotten what they were after.

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They claim  to be privy of secret knowledge and information. They talk about this with great pride and arrogance. That knowledge is more often than spurious, they just want to create an impression that they have important connections. Which they do not.

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The absence of emotions leaves them disconnected with people. It is not just the absence of emotions  - they are unable to respond to pain like normal people. When a normal person is hurt - he will cry out. A psychopath does not because their minds are clouded they do not have any sensation is connected to emotions.  They cannot tell the difference between a pleasant feeling and a painful one.Although they are pain they can never express it and appear cold or 'very brave'.  They are incapable of recognising or understanding another person's illness, pain or grief. For them it is only pretence and lies.

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In Pakistan arranged marriages are the norm. For psychopath parents they  misuse that power. They are not concerned about the needs of their children. Control and manipulate them into accepting a proposal. Shame them if they do not. They  do not feel any guilt for having their children married to people whom unsuitable and results in a lifetime of misery.The children all through their life lived in endless terror of their parents.  First they are shocked then they become like people who have Stockholm Syndrome.  Sympathising with their tormentors, justifying every rotten behaviour or ignore it.

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Just as psychopaths have no consideration for others, they have none for their own. They imagine to have superhuman abilities. There was one person whose tractor got stuck in a ditch, did not want to hire (stinginess is an important aspect of their personality)  a vehicle to pull it out. What he did instead was to push it, using all his strength. The tractor did get out of the ditch but he ended with a hernia. Years later he died because ignored the diagnoses of the doctor that he had an ulcer and insisted that the pain he was suffering had something to do with his heart. 
Eventually he died when the ulcer ruptured. Psychopaths drink and smoke in excess, not so much  because they are addicted,  but because they are convinced that they are indestructible. Many psychopaths die as a result of Alzheimer's Disease, brain haemorrhage  tetanus or suffer a variety of cancers. While dying they show no pain or regret.
This is based on my observation.  it could possibly be a mere coincidence. When my father during his final days  dying of tetanus - he started expressing emotions which he never or ever could express, he suddenly had tremendous regret for everything he said or ever done. The impulses from his brain were racing faster than ever because of the disease. He was fond of poetry and verses were on the tip of his tongue and had them for almost every situation. He could no longer  live with himself knowing. He had tremendous regret about all the things he done because his lack of emotions. To be actually there and see it for myself was intense.

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They seem to have some kind of psychic link between other psychopaths. There is a constant flow of unspoken messages. They seem to understand each other. When they are deeply connected with another, they only know how to communicate with one another. But if one of the psychopath dies or disappears that link is broken. They are completely different people when they have a psychic link with some psychopath - more at ease - lots of things can be communicated without talking.
A psychopath with no psychic link is very lonely, very disturbed. Always required to speak in order to be understood. They find speaking too painful. They cannot get their feelings across by speaking - they are on a completely different level of communication. Most of the time they remain reticent. Expecting to be understood, expecting what they have in their mind to be conveyed magically in some one else's brain.
On a level where normal people exist, who need to hear and see what is going on, psychopaths are aggravated by the 'menial' task of making facial expressions and conveying their feelings in words. They are trapped inside an unresponsive body. The run as far as they can from normal people as they possibly can because they cannot bear the burden of talking with them.
To convey something indirectly is not the same conveying it directly. Psychopaths avoid talking about things directly - they prefer to stay indirect as much as possible. They lack the emotions which come when something is said. They are threatened with any kind of direct communication.
Their reaction to not having said anything directly -"Well I expect you to understand" - "I do not have too many things, don't you realise I am busy with so many things you should be so considerate, I don't have the time to tell you". Or they try to create guilt "If you cannot understand on your own,  they you are slow and I cannot help you". "Are you so stupid that you did not notice all the things going around and the things people were saying". This is just an excuse to avoid direct communication at all costs.

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Any time anything is to be told it is also no conveyed directly.
It is always "Guess what happened who I met? Guess what I did?" - If you do not play that game and say "I don't know, you tell me". The result of that is unforgiving rage - "You know, you're no fun to be with". An attempt to make the listener guilty of not playing the game. Nothing thrills them them more than guessing and making others guess. They do not like telling things directly. Everything has to have a sense of danger or suspense all the time.
Normal people are very straight forward, they tell things directly. What  they say evokes a specific response in other normal people. But when normal people tell something to a psychopath, they reaction is not unpredictable or the subject is suddenly changed very quickly, because psychopaths are willing to delve on what has been told to them - because they are not certain what the correct emotional response should be or expected to be.
Their presence makes people uncomfortable. They like the excessive tension and unpleasantness. 

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It is as if they feed of fear, guilt, shamed and disgust. It empowers them. They cannot live an environment which they cannot control,  dominate or change. They avoid such places;  They feel out extremely out  of place where people are intimate and deeply  involved in one another because they can never be. They can pretend to if there is something to be gained, otherwise not.


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A normal person will be careful in providing a detailed introduction then proceed with conveying what is related to that information. Psychopaths would skip everything and jump to what is to be said and leave they person they have told it  to then later figure out on their own no questions allowed. 
They assume they already know what is being talked about and many times find out to their embarrassment- what is being talked about, has nothing to do what they thought it was.They like others to believe they know everything all the time.
However when they are asked a question they will avoid answering because it would expose their ignorance. In order to hide their ignorance they will lie, they get into fits of rage - in order to avoid answering anything. They  will say such things "You don't know this, in which world are you living?" - "You can never understand, so it is best you never ask". They avoid details as much as they can.
They abhor people in whose conversation there is a beginning, a middle and an end. Psychopaths cannot be bothered, because they have nothing but contempt for such people- they will only give a brief account of something and move on to something else very quickly.  This is not only sign madness it is a sign of extreme stupidity. 
However when they do not have anything to say - they endlessly repeat themselves and do not want to be interrupted.  Psychopaths never have anything  new to add, if one meets them it is a circular conversation. They prefer answering the same questions all the time. It is their idea of remaining safe and not disclose anything. What they are doing is being very secretive. Talking about anything other than their pet subject they walk away.
Since psychopaths have no emotions - it is impossible for them to express any with respect to anything they see or experience. They do not see the world in the same way as normal people do. A normal person will go to a place will feel happy or sad, be critical - have entire range of emotions with respect to anything they see be it animate or inanimate.
Psychopaths are incapable to recall anything emotionally. It is like everything is the same. They could be inside a vile stinking place or a very beautiful place it is all the same.  A normal person would describe a sunset as beautiful a psychopath will never understand that - for them they are just words without any meaning .  They cannot associate words with emotions.
If they visit they place to ask them what it was like - they lack the ability to describe it. If they are not asked they will never talk about it, because do not know what to say. However someone who is not aware about them will make the mistake of asking - the psychopath will pick out a feeling at given moment and address the matter of what they seen. It can be intense boasting, exaggeration, anger or anything that is there. Because they do not understand the question. Mostly the reaction is 'there is nothing to talk about, what is there to talk about?"
Normal people feel excited and enthusiastic psychopaths can never be like that. They  do not know how it is to express that.  Normally they see an emotion and express them out of context which makes them look insane. Which upsets them.  The only way out is to be perpetually angry because it is their 'exit strategy' even that anger is faked. When something really bad happens they do not know how what is the correct reaction they do not get instantly enraged.
They try very hard to make themselves look sane like they will talk about things, people or animals with rehearsed emotions. They end up repeating themselves and do not realise that. They are completely insane but try  to create the illusion that they are not.  An easy way to know that someone is a psychopath -  is the eerie silence - they never anything to say about anything. Above all they are never are conversation starters because their insanity will be expose Information is a major problem with psychopaths.  A normal person for instance will try to communicate with certain detail to get it across. But psychopaths do not have the time for such niceties -they convey something without any details at all
They cannot be burdened  by  giving any additional information. The few words they say, are enough to get the information across. It is extremely rude, but they do not realise that not only that, they cannot.  However when it is pointed out to them - they say it is unnecessary and explode in anger.

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There is no link between what they say and what they mean - one has nothing to do with the other. A psychopath woman has no idea what her body language is conveying. She is standing or sitting with her legs apart, for  normal people it is a sexual overture. how she does not know it because she cannot relate that her spread out legs is sexual signalling. When someone points that out to them - they are quickly offended that the 'wrong meaning' is being derived from her pose.
Psychopaths  have neither have verbal nor physical language. They are incapable of  realising that what they say and what kind of  impact it has on others. They can be completely rude, offensive and crude - and will never be aware of it.
Communication for the most part comes naturally and it is an essential part of sharing in normal people.  Normal people always and give off  the right signals. The express the emotion which is appropriate for an occasion - it is not something learnt or practised,  it is comes naturally. Psychopaths have to learn to convey an emotion, because they do not know,  how to do that.


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Expressing grief and sorrow is something perfectly normal, for normal people - but  not so for psychopaths - unless they have rehearsed an entire sentence, they do not what to say beyond the words they already know.Psychopaths are deprived of emotions and communication skills -everything appears to them as if  it is  fake and put on.
They cannot tell the difference between tears of joy or tears of grief. They cannot tell the difference between a person who is laughing out loud and a person who is wailing.  It is hard enough for psychopaths to express basic emotions - it is simply out of the question to understand really deep ones.

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Since they are completely superficial, they imagine everyone else is.  They shy away from festivals - because those would require learning whole new set of emotions and they are not equipped to deal with. The easiest way out is to condemn the festival completely -so when it comes around abuse it and the people participating in it. It is like saying "I cannot understand what being happy means, how do I express happiness, when I cannot feel it?"
This is the consequence of a deeper underlying problem - they cannot greet anyone genuinely, that is too much of a burden. Unless they are trained to so like a dog, they will greet - but there is no emotion it is conveyed as matter of routine. Being generous in expressing a joyous sentiment is a major problem for them.
A good way to know that someone is a psychopath  - to look at their face - it generally expressionless - most of the time they look stern or very cold.  Because they have no emotions to convey.  Their eyes are moving indifferent towards everything. Their eyes always moving, never staying in one place, their madness is exposed when one sees those eyes

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But in order enforce an idea or something which they want something to be done, they look into the eyes of anyone whom they want to control. That can easily be deterred - by not looking at them at all. Most of the message being conveyed by the psychopath is deflected and its impact lessened -when does not look into their eyes. Which irritates the psychopath.
Psychopaths have problem with being cooperative and helping. They will avoid as much as they can to do something even when requested. They only respond to orders, not  to requests. They feel extraordinarily obligated when they have been asked to do something - out of politeness. Because they assume they are being exploited, when that is no the case at all. Sadly they  perceive everything in that  negative manner.
They will procrastinate, till it becomes pointless to ask them to do anything at all. Unlike normal people who would jump to an opportunity to be helpful - simply because it is nice to do so.
Psychopaths cannot relate to behaving nicely, they are incapable of understanding what niceness means. Their actions are more like machines, if they are ordered to do something they will do it, not do it otherwise - a command has to be clear and proper. No one can expect them to be generous - they can never do anything for anyone without a reason,  because they feel as if they are being exploited.
One of the reasons for following an order is self-serving - eventually they will respond by being obnoxious when the opportunity presents itself. To the person who gave them the  orders. Because they never really want to do anything for anyone ever.

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Psychopaths work well in an environment  where they behave just like automatons. They carry out tasks because they were 'programmed' into doing them.  No feeling is involved about doing that task. They are not doing anything because they enjoy it, they are just doing it as a matter of routine in which no emotion is involved. They quickly become upset if their routine is disturbed. Everything they do is at a specific time - they are completely inflexible about that as long as there is no other distraction.
Because they are parasitical and opportunistic - they will stop their routine task to do something which is entirely self-serving.A narcissistic psychopath will stop all routine tasks do something which will win them praise. They covet and demand flattery.The people who are under their control are expected to praise and those who do not are insulted, abused and ridiculed.


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If they cannot get it or instead of praise get ridiculed, they become uncontrollably enraged. They like to be in the company of the rich and famous - where they think they rightfully belong, people who are not of that stature, they would avoid at all costs. They quickly lose interest in people who are no longer in an important position or wealthy enough.
Psychopaths or call them sociopaths if you will,their emotionally retarded, they can show a whole complement of emotions, but never truly know what they mean. Their own emotions and have not grown along with their mind, they prefer remain expressionless which is much easier to do. Giving the impression of being strong, when they are not -  they are simply completely cold hearted.
Watching my brothers endlessly abusing each other amid conversation - only indicated that there was no link between the abuse and whatever they were talking about. Over time I learnt that psychopaths are immune to harsh language. Words used to insult and degrade,  had simply have no affect on them. The only reason why they will attack on hearing them - is because they are naturally  predisposed towards violence and want  an excuse for it or make one. However they feel no shame or guilt when they are, particularly when they are being hurt by someone else -  they act as if  nothing is happened.


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They do not know what it means to have a brother or a sister. The kinship does not exist. True feelings do not exist - no brother would abuse the other the way in such extreme manner. It was seen as perfectly normal. It is not.  When they are away from each other never call up or know how the other is. Your brother is not your friend whom you help. Being a brother means going over and above everyone else to help the other.
But my brothers could never bring themselves to do that.  Their greed and morbid fear of being exploited overcame them. Helping ones own brother is terrifying.In a normal and sane world - brothers respect each other, care for one another, talk with one another and share things with one another.
Psychopaths have no permanent relationships with anyone. For a psychopath every relationship is a  means to an end. When a parent , sibling or child ceases to be useful, they will try to get rid of him or her. The psychopath can have no permanent ties with anyone. Expedience is all that comes to mind. Psychopaths are completely unable to reciprocate any emotion.
 
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For them breaking promises, lying all the time.is a something they cannot stop doing. When they are expected to do something which happens to be a legal requirement - they will try to avoid it - escape if necessary. There are only two primal emotions fight or flight - they have no understanding of others.
When they are talking - they boast endlessly - but if someone calls their bluff they try to run and hide. Because all the things they were talking about are lies. They exaggerate  things all time.
For instance they like to say they travel a lot - what they never tell anyone is that they cannot afford to stay where they have gone - will try to live with some relative or the cheapest and filthiest accommodation they can find and say it is fun to 'rough it out'. Which is absolute nonsense - if  an emperor offered them to stay in one of his many palaces, they would grab the opportunity to live in the emperor's main suite - no 'roughing out' there. These are comfort loving parasites.
They have extremes either like the life of a soldier following routine to the letter or be in the opposite direction living a completely undisciplined, disorganised and careless life - the result is that - they are criminally negligent.
The routine of a soldier is comforting because it does not involving sharing emotions - just follow a pattern - anything outside that routine results in rage and violence. Psychopaths happily adjust to prison life - because they cannot tell the difference emotionally  in living a comfortable and free life and one in which they are put behind bars - there is no emotional connection with the world. A normal person would cry his eyes out be traumatised for being put in jail even for a day.

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 All psychopath suffer from Sjogren Syndrome. The link is between the fact they do not have emotions, so they do not respond to anything emotionally the glands which respond to emotions are never activated, they do not get the required impulses from the brain to make them function. When the glands do not function they remain unused.
 There is a story of a couple, the husband had a problem he could not swallow things, he always required a lot of water in order to do so. His wife could not cry, could not shed a tear.  Shed a tear of joy and happiness or of grief. Considered the shedding of tears as something fake or a sign of weakness, because they never could weep themselves.  
The most common trait in that couple was they liked excessively spicy food, because they could not taste anything which was not. Anything without spices tasted bland, even anything mildly saltish was tasteless for them, saying it tasted like 'hospital food', the could not spit it out what they had in their mouth because the did not sufficient saliva for that, had to forcefully removed it with their fingers.
Another couple had only one child, because the woman suffered from the same syndrome, her vagina could not lubricate and if it did at all, it be for a very brief moment.  
When something is erotic it results in salivation and the genitals becoming wet - those with Sjogren Syndrome cannot do that, this connected to the 'sexual feeling' which does not exist. A normal person would have that feeling and be naturally aroused become wet.
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There is this particular case of a woman  Karoz who exacted absolute control over her sister and daughter. After her Mahnoor got married and started living abroad, Mahnoor was required to call Karoz every single day at a specific time and talk with her at length. Rabia the sister of Karoz was a designated driver (Karoz had learnt to drive and had not done so for some years, acted as if she did not know how to drive). Rabia had to leave everything and drive her around to places she wanted to be.
Karoz was unable to tell the nature of the pain she was suffering in her belly, it was cancer, it was in its late stage. Even if she was in pain, she could not express it like a normal person. People mistook it as a sign of bravery -what it  was a sign of not being able to understand pain at all. Karoz died. She was just  as expressionless in death as she was in life.
No sooner had she died, Mahnoor felt a burden lift from her. The guilt of not calling Karoz every single day ended. She seldom calls anyone now.  Rabia is slowly get out of the massive guilt of not driving Karoz around and spending most of her with her. A person like Karoz used guilt as a means to get things done. Hers was a very toxic personality.  
The more I delve in discovery of psychopaths more things I find.  Rabia strangely confessed she cannot elaborate on she  wants  to say, and expects people to be understood. I gave her options of the kind of replied they could have given,  She said  sounded so easy to convey, but they found it impossible to do so herself  and ended making codes for them instead of saying breaking it up in easy to understand messages. Somehow her brain automatically switches a simple message into a complex and coded one.

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If you tell a normal person that you have a headache or pain anywhere, the normal would express concern and would ask if you need an aspirin. However you tell the same thing to a psychopath, the reaction is not of concern, it would to figure why the pain is taking place and blame the person who is suffering that is pain is due to one thing or another. Not being to figure out  that a person is suffering  needs to be given some medicine.  It is absolutely impossible to evoke the slightest bit of sympathy from a psychopath. Only when one tells the psychopath to give a pain killer, they will do so without thinking about why it is needed. 
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Normal people are concerned about what others think and feel. They look for signs on their faces of regret, anger or any other emotion. The face of normal people shows emotions. They are not poker faced. Whatever they are feeling it is in their eyes. When they speak their voice changes according to what they feel. They style of walking and their mannerism reveals their feelings. Emotions guide the actions and expressions of normal people.
However with psychopaths their eyes and face are expressionless. All the time they have an agenda a plan. They learn to express emotions and use them as and when it suits them. They practice a great deal to express an emotion in order to get the desired result. The imagine they have mastered the art of emotional blackmail, so have and some keep trying very hard. It is a contest.
Once a normal person has recognised a psychopath, one of the step which should be taken is constantly close ones eyes.
When you set your eyes on them, they will try impress you with some kind of feeling. Close your eyes for a second or so and reopen them, they will be depicting another emotion. One has to keep blinking in their presence.
It tires the psychopath, because there are limited number of emotions they can show. When they are defeated in that way, they try speaking but with any feeling trying extract a favour . Looking away and closing ones eyes, they stop talking and they become extremely silent. They have been defeated, they do not have any trick up their sleeve. Not only do they stop talking, they stop listening. A normal person remains protected and impervious to the manipulative tactics of psychopaths.

 

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