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Health of the bride and groom

Not everyone is so bold as to fall in love and get married - they agree to an arranged marriage. Men and women go blindly into a relationship, because their parents have told them to do so. The criteria is wealth and family background. But there is one matter which both the parents of the groom and bride ignore - it is the health of the two.
Does any one of them have any hereditary disease like thalassemia, diabetes and hypertension? If any one of them does they are bound to have diseased children. No one considers other factors such if any of them is HIV positive or not. Did the man suffer from mumps -which would make completely unsuitable for marriage.
There are some problems such as impotence in men and frigidity in women. Is either of them fertile or not. There are issues of sexual preferences, is the man completely gay and the woman completely lesbian - but such things are taboo no one wants to talk about such things it is embarrassing and illegal.
It is high time health should be considered a criteria for selecting a groom or a bride. The parents of the groom should have complete medical check up of bride and the parents have a complete medical check up of the groom. Such medical check should cover everything. There should be psycho-analytical tests and psychiatric tests. CAT scans and MRIs.
This would make arranged marriages very expensive. The more the children would lead to financial ruin. It would not matter if they daughters or sons, they will have to pay. If this is made a legal requirement that no marriage can take place without a health certificate, it could possibly mean the end of arranged marriages as we know them. This law should only apply to people who arranging the marriage of their children.
If a medical check up exposes a severe in disease in either the groom (or the bride) it would end his chances of ever getting married again. Because the medical record would be submitted in court and to the health department. So that other parents can check the medical record of the concerned individual. But then that medical certificate would be outdated - if the groom suffers from some crippling disease later, a new medical check up would be required and added to the certificate.
Parents particularly of women would miserable that their daughter can never get married and will have to stay at home, unless she is educated and can live independently. But our culture considers it extremely bad that an unmarried woman should be living alone, in her own house.


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It seems as though that some changes are slowly taking place in our society. Women bearing children out of wedlock does not cause the mass hysteria and shock it once would have. People are beginning to accept extra-marital affairs including live in relationships. Breaking taboos is an absolutely new trend. The initial shock effect is still around, but its impact is getting toned down a great deal and may one day well end completely.

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