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My former friend Baber

I became  Baber's friend - because it was his older sister Chikie whom I was interested in, in my teenage years. She was pretty - it was unrequited love. Eventually  realised  she did not spurn just  my feelings - she had none of her own - was married for a year or so - her true passion was move up in her career and she move to the top, destroying everyone who was on her way - she is phenomenally rich. However Baber poor soul was not nearly as successful.
I remember always needing to emain extremely polite with him. This  friendship was growing up to be a nuisance.  With other friends I could say anything I liked, talk utter nonsense for hours, let our hairs down and joke. With him there was nothing like that. I accepted him  for what he was and let it be. Then there were little things which I chose to ignore. Once I went to his place - he was feeding his grandmother. I was talking to with, he exploded in rage. I was taken aback.
"Can't you see I am feeding my Naany" He said. He made me feel as if I was being  inconsiderate.  My other friends would get upset but would apologise for it.  I waited for him to finish feeding his Nanny and then we talked.  He acted as if he said nothing had happened, did not apologise for his unwarranted outburst.  I felt sorry for him for being so inconsiderate. Another time I went to see him, he was leaving for something 'very important' - it was as if I was not there.
"You can stay if you want to, but I am going" He says in a standoffish manner. I left his house and went over to another friend's place.
"Baber is insane, how can he just brush you off like that?" my friend Ali said. I said nothing because there was really nothing to talk about that. I avoided, only when I was invited to his did I go, otherwise never drop in unexpected.
Some years later I find out he is getting married  to a polio stricken young lady. I was married too by that time.  One day he told me about his physical condition when I asked about him becoming a father. He said during his childhood he had the mumps. His marriage lasted a few years, he was in and out of jobs during that time. One day I discover his marriage had ended and whenever I asked about his ex-wife - he was spewing out how horrible things about her. Some days later he pulled a disappearing act- I did not see him for some years, I did not suspect that he had been hospital abroad and Chikie was footing the bill. He comes back telling me a complete lie that he was working in Dubai and then in Canada.
He comes back, finds a number lecturing jobs in some local universities.  During this time - his second marriage is announced. All the invitation cards had been distributed. Strangely the marriage never took place. The lies were told why the marriage transpired. One was that her parents were responsible. Found out later -that her family had found that he suffered from a whole range of health issues (he wears adult diapers), which would make their daughter a nurse more than  a wife. Baber and his family dreamed up all kinds of oddball stories for the extremely embarrassing matter.
Baber married for the second time properly. Despite all the health issues, his wife a widowed woman accepted the proposal. He stayed in the country for some years - again vanished again for another two years and I asked around and discovered he had suffereda complete nervous breakdown. Some kind bizarre psychotic attacks. During his sane moments he would send me emails - nothing about himself, but links from countless newspapers. He kept details about himself very secret. My email inbox with his spam,. I blocked him, because there was nothing to share.
I had enough of this mad person.  He recently offered me a some freelance work - in which he was the primary beneficiary and I nothing to gain, which I flatly refused. He tells me about an interview  - it was a ridiculous offer and I finally told him off. I was fed up of his lies and keeping secrets.
He is completely insane. Because of his poor health unable to be aware about the feelings of others.  The brief moments he is fit enough move around, he starts making tall claims. I have begun to treat with extreme suspicion - he lies every time.  There really is no hope for such a person.

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